You rarely have to sell yourself on the right thing to do, the healthy thing to do, the responsible thing to do. while ignoring all the warning lights flashing right in front of us. The problem is, like any good sales associate, we assist ourselves in seeing what we want to see. How could we have been so clueless? But the problem isn’t that we’re clueless. Looking back, we wonder how we missed the signs. I’m concerned about what you tell yourself before the transaction. The 3 categories of decisions that create the majority of regrets:Īre you rigorously honest with yourself when it comes to how you spend your money? Your business. But you owe it to yourself to be honest about why you choose what you choose, why you’re deciding what you’re deciding. Tell yourself the truth even if it makes you feel bad about yourself. You ignored knowing better and started selling yourself on what you wanted in the moment. In many instances, maybe even most, you knew better. But in most cases, you didn’t decide by carefully weighing all the options and seeking wise counsel. You’ve done more to undermine your own success and progress than anyone on the planet. You were there for and willingly participated in all of ’em. Financial, relational, professional, academic. Worse, you were the mastermind behind most of your regrettable decisions. “The easiest person to deceive is the person in the mirror.” The Integrity Question: Am I being honest with myself, really? You are where you are for the most part because of the decisions you’ve made.ġ. You are where you are for the most part because of decisions you’ve made. Your decisions have shaped the direction and quality of your life so far-for good and for. Our decisions determine the direction and quality of our lives. But you decide one decision at a time because you write the story of your life. Perhaps more compelling, we should consider what story we want told about us. That being the case, we should stop at every decision-making juncture and consider the story we want to tell. “Our greatest regrets are associated with things, “opportunities,” and people we sold ourselves on.”Įvery decision becomes a permanent part of our stories. well-placed, appropriately timed, thought-provoking questions. So counselors painstakingly scatter breadcrumbs along our paths to lead us toward making our own good decisions. Counselors understand that we hominids have a greater propensity to follow through on decisions we make rather than advice prescribed to us. Private decisions almost always have public ramifications. There’s no getting around the fact that well-placed, appropriately timed, thought-provoking questions result in better decisions and fewer regrets. Right? Every decision we make impacts somebody in our public, beginning with the folks closest to us. You’ve never made a personal decision that didn’t become somebody’s business. The easiest person to deceive is the person in the mirror. Private decisions almost always have public ramifications And while nobody plans to complicate their life with bad decisions, far too many people have no plan to make good decisions. Your decisions determine the direction and quality of your life. And better decisions lead to fewer regrets. Is there a tension that needs my attention?ĭecision #3: I will explore rather than ignore my conscience.ĭecision #4: I will take the past, present, and future into considerationĭecision #5: I will decide with the interests of others in mind. Decision #1: I will not lie to myself even the truth makes me feel bad about myself.ĭecision #2: I will write a story I’m proud to tell one decision at a time.
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